וַיִּפֹּל עַל צַוְּארֵי בִנְיָמִן אָחִיו וַיֵּבְךְּ וּבִנְיָמִן בָּכָה עַל צַוָּארָיו
And he fell on his brother Binyamin’s neck and wept, and Binyamin wept on his neck.
After many years of separation, the brothers were finally reunited. As one might expect, in this emotionally charged moment Yosef and Binyamin wept on each others shoulders. The reasons for this weeping were a little different than expected though. Rashi explains that Yosef was weeping over the eventual destruction of the two Batei Mikdash which would be in Binyamin’s portion of Eretz Yisrael, and Binyamin over the destruction of the Mishkan which would be in Yosef’s portion.
Very interesting, almost… tactless. Is this really the proper time to be crying over an eventual destruction? Why let the joy of the moment be marred? And what’s the deal with each one crying over the other’s destruction?
The answer lies in the holy thoughts of the brothers. At that moment the full impact of their baseless hatred hit them. They further recognized (through ruach hakodesh) the eventual impact of the same sin so many generations later in the destruction of our holy places. That was why they reacted to this way at precisely this moment.
Furthermore, they realized that the “fix” to baseless hatred, as a preventive measure and a solution, is love. They cried over another’s tragedy before their own, demonstrating that love. Just as tragedy and destruction came from hatred, a greater measure of salvation and happiness will come from truly loving one another.